My Timing Is Perfect

Dedicating this post to my grandma. I am sure you all have your own stories about your grandparents on such grounds. If not, you have missed grandparents’ love in your lives. And those who know my grandma reading this you may have your own story with that soul.   A tough and resilient woman crossed her 9 decades and still lived for others till her last of the Pancha pranas leaving the physical realm. Just the way Arjuna had questions to Krishna in the Geetha and Parvathi to Shiva in Shivasuthra (pl note I have not read these but have heard they are full of questions to the ultimate truth), I have always had questions for her.    She used to hate seeing me during her last draining days, hate not in in its strict sense, but ‘OH God its Ramya she will have a ton of questions..' kind of way. Coz when one does not have physical stamina its hard to talk or even smile. Well, for starters for all the “why” questions; most times the answer would be DUTY. I have never understood an...

Thoughts over flow every time any life form around me, amaze me as I observe them with awe. Yes, as I sat this morning first I wondered, wow, matting season is it? Then observed with keen eye, by splashing that water into my eye. Oh good heavens, its life and death.  Well my dear readers, its a web and the flimsy legged spider was busy on her pray an ant. Ofcourse, the ant was busy rescuing her life. I am a third person here watching all this, sitting for minutes together, should I help the Ant save her life? Should I not help? Will it be fair if I help to the spider for she has given her life force to make those beautiful patterned web to have her meal?  How will I feel when I am starved to death waiting for my meal and there it comes not in just a lucky plater but after lots of hard work such as this web and someone takes my well deserved meal? How will I feel when someone is looking at me as an Ant struggling with my life to be saved but purely observatory around me? I stil...

It pains, it pains to see everything being sold. Things that are free. Things that have to be carefree. Air to breathe is free but in oxygen mask. Water to drink is free but packaged. List can go ever ending. There was a time humans were sold in the market mainly women for pleasure. But today when I see a cattle sold and the calf while drinking milk from her mother which is her natural right is been pulled out for selling away. It hurts, we claim we are here to save the cattle too. What o brains we humans thinketh that we know it all and we are above one and all? I could not stop imagining myself being sold in the market when i see another life been sold. May sound silly to many, but everytime we put ourselves in the other the pain is clear and loud.  Compassion or frustration Change or submission outcomes that create another wave of insecurity and leads and leaves a vibration that is not a healthy sigh. pic courtesy google. Even in historical scripts gifting a cow to a bramin was ...

Digitization is such a wonderful means to connect with the ones far and feel the warmth of being near.  It sure is a blessing. However, not at the cost of the time with a loved one sitting right next to you. Or is that person to be treated afar rather than to be a near and dear one? Sitting next to your loved one but looking into a text.  Sitting next to your friend but watching TV. Sitting next to your child but laughing at a status post on FB. Sitting next to your guest who has entered home but listening to music! Well these are all Movie time or tv time or entertainment time, but never family time. Smiling conversation and pleasant patient responses helps bond irrespective of age. What is the rush? Which train of death are we running behind to give that rush into things that are near than the ones that are far? Near your beach, enjoy the waves.... Near your spouse, look into their eyes to have a quality conversation.. Near your child, drop everything and never stop to corre...

Saluting to the gratitude journey, that I yet again pen down last weeks thoughts on gratitude to nature than on pen and paper. While we were asked to write about another 5 areas to be grateful to mother nature. I must admit it goes way beyond 5. Nature, who are you? Nature where are you?                Nature, you are the mother of mothers Nature you are the womb of creation Nature you are the miracle called life Nature you are in one and all. Nature without you there is no existence in this physical dimension Life giver and nurturer Yin and yang Sun and moon Heat and cold Man and woman Trees and insects flowers and bees earth and ether water and fire and the list may go on, without one the other cannot exist.    I can see you as me and me as you dear nature. Without you i dont exist and without me you dont. So i wonder why we humans call nature that we observe through our senses only? Am i not part of this nature by itself? Easy wa...

While i am a total old school and prefer to draft out or write out on paper and pen. I choose today to type here a love letter to myself. I wish to reread it at a later date. I wonder how it would be to write a letter to myself and that too a love note. Well you may think why i got cranky as such, but this is out of a group i joined and lovely people sharing gratitude to each and everything we have in our life currently, that we take it sooo for granted. Dedicating this post to each and everyone who are part of the gratitude group and to each of you who have understood the true love within you. SO here i go, To my dearest Ramya, I want you to know i love you loads and as i start to write this letter realized i have missed out appreciating you for all that you do.  You have an air of taking things as it comes. Today I wish to tell you that lots of people whom you have chosen in your life as important and their beliefs has made you feel that, a casual affair to take it as it comes is...

Next moment has always been unpredictable, unfortunately till we foresee a physical demise in front of our own eyes particularly a loved one, understanding this concept is generally tough. Having said about unpredictability, today in #covid situation faced all over the world, we all are aware of the fact more clearly; what is the true meaning of unpredictability. However, I could not stop myself today but to pen this down about life turned transactional. What is the true dictionary meaning of transactional? Means a give and take or take and give. Eg, mostly it was referred only for financial reasons since you pay for a product or service and that's called a transaction. But why I am I saying life itself has become transactional? Are we buying and selling amongst our own kith and kin? The non cash transactions are flooded,  You greet me I will greet you You smile at me I will smile at you You hit me I will hit you back You gifted me so I have to gift you back You fed me so I have to...

There have been decades of wisdom. There have decades of knowledge, that I have gained. How many have I put to use? That sure is a biggest question mark. Of all these many years of advices and the different observations of people around me, I must admit I still have the habit of blaming. People who have known me for decades together not just probably the last one decade, have known the great deal of challenges that I have faced from my childhood. All the these people would tell about how I have risen over every situation brave and stronger. Despite all these challenges that I have faced and raised much Above The Horizon, I still have had expectations like any other. When such expectations, called basics,  also called logical way of working in my dictionary, doesn't work for me, I too get into a blaming mode. Well considering I have understood this aspect very clearly atleast now, I think it is time to change every such instance into an opportunity. It sounds easy but only a ...

Happy Diwali 2019 It is been a while that have pen down thoughts in to my blog. And wishing one and all a very happy Diwali this year. The things that made me pen down this year after very long time. Very simple thing, I have been invited for Diwali this year at my maternal side my paternal and time to spend with my in laws. Thinking on how to split the time with everybody, I ran back in my memory lane of my childhood. This thought made me pen down today. And thought about all those women who are married and who spent there time with us as children but never spend their adults time with their parents. It is 2 folded yes, I am sure each of you have a great deal of memories that you cherish every Diwali. It is festive energy and the great energy that surrounds all of us, this energy has nothing to do with religion. I have had almost all my friends come down and spend time and play together. The best part has never been shopping for clothes all the best part has been shopping f...

Its sure hard to accept when the finger is pointed at us. When truth is told to us its hard to digest for sure. However broad minded one is, acceptance comes only from those whom we are not emotionally attached. Well, having said that, i am still trying to accept some truth about myself yet. Truth on how i have lost my charm, my smile, my thoughts of comparison, my own personal space, my health or even my self esteem.. and so on.. the list is grown so much that i wonder now how to accept that with ease and move on. I wonder when i became like this, for i at least had this personal space of my own which helped me enrich myself and grow to be what i want or get what i wanted. So its time i renewed myself with the truth of my current situation. Where to start and what to do with me myself is quite a challenging area to work on. For sure i know that moments of truth are words from divine that, its high time i see the change in me to see the change around me. Theoretically whil...

The meaning of the word Birthday of the pre-milenials is the day we were born and it was tought to us in school as a Red Letter day. As the milenials understand it's yes, the date of their birth and they need to be pampered with gifts and many other things like treating friends and basically creating a market around it these days.  Well, as a child until I conceived with a new life I too was under the impression birthdays are important day in one's own life. My entire perspective changed. I started to remember how my mom and my grandmother and her siblings always remembered my birthday and blessed me every year.  From the culture I hail, the child is born in the home of their maternal grandparents. It's basically joy in their hearts and an unforgettable moment to see us new born into this world in their hands...   Yes,  the moment I conceived the new life in my womb lots if new things opened up to me for many questions I had no answer for. The bi...

Tonights the night of my spiritual awakening to the next level of my souls journey. Just as the song 'silent night' rings into my ear; the night vigil or sivarathiri or tahajjud; in which ever you look into. All of them have similarity towards the sipirual awakening at middle of the night. Who ever said being awake at nights is not a good sign? Its the time when you can reflect on yourself without disturbances. Today, with the door bell ringing from milk man to maid to cable to water vendor and to constant beeps of personal handphones; there is no time better than midnight when whole world aorund you, once the internet is disconnected; is fast asleep. Each of us need time to relect on our spiritual journey of life. Prayers in my opinion used to be so; till probably our grandparents days. Since today prayers are; either fear based or a demand of materialistic things. Lets use the paceful time of the night to work on ourselves. Firstly, many thanks to all of y...

The new talk of the world, is about todays kids and how something is always a deficient in them. Different terminologies are been developed and created as a platform for therapies. As i keep reading and hearing more on these lines of comparison to a generalized version of development; loads of doubts and questions arise on my head. One such topic i would like to pen down here is ADHD. Its basically Attention Deficit and Hyperactive Disorder.  Currently AI revolution - Well, to understand this in depth what i have concluded is we all posses this quality. So why tag these poor kids who are not given the vastness of learning from mother nature till age of 7? They are directly expected to have table manners, social etiquette and lots more of decorum by they are age of 3. What more to add they are expected to work like machines or robots only based on instructions. Industrial revolution - This expected every one to work like machines. Line control a...

If you come from the times of my life you will understand how news papers where tagged. Yesterdays news papers is today's waste paper Today's news papers is tomorrows waste paper.. Does this ring a bell? People read news only to know what happened and where. By the time the news reaches via print medium the disaster if any, would also be undergoing recovery. Well, what is my headline got to do with new yet far?? Well its our fast paced advent in technology. With the growth of technology in the current trend, I wish to redefine the same to news papers theory. Today's technology is tomorrows waste. Simply put that, its time for me to pen down how i used to enjoy usage of technology to the effect to getting closer to dear ones when there were far away. Medium of communication, from physically writing letters to coded telegraphs. Now telegraphs being extinct and a museum piece. From telephones to hear loved ones to usage of cell phones and sms. From computers t...

Change is inevitable is something i keep hearing. Do you agree to that statement?? Well, to my observation around me, there is nothing changing in nature unless we humans land up changing it. Or is it i am over observing it? Sun seems to be fine ever since i was born, and so are the seasons with minor changes in them - thanks to our interventions. Sometimes i wonder why we are asked to change. I just so realized we are not in sync with nature anymore and hence we need to change, to get back to our own selves. Well the inevitable changes around us are purely physical in nature. Its hard to explain to ones who have not understood the movement of energy around them or never allowed themselves to feel so. We all can feel it, we just need to tune into it.  The question is am i ready to change? Am i ready to face the transformation to a blissful experience of life? Am i ready to understand beyond all the fancy and fantasy driven life?  While i have...

Traveling on holidays are more fun than official trips. But what a headache it can give when home is smelly and has cocroches running around as you enter closed home? Well, after multiple attempts this holiday i have tried, tested and sucessfully worked. Here are some simple home tips i would like to share. 1. Turmeric power to the rescue. Put sufficient turmeric powder in all openings at home, the day you step outside. Openings here include sink at kitchen upto drain of washing machine and so on. This helps cocroches to ants or anything at bay. (While such entrant tels me i am blessed in abundance of stuff at home) If you are traveling for more than a week or so - 2. One week before start date keep spraying some organic clenser at all openings. 3. Pile up all soft or coushins into a cornor and cover them up in big cloth. This big cloth can be washed at a go instead of vacuuming dust of beds and sofa.  4. Place camphour bars in each room. Thes...

I have not been blogging for over a year, nor i am a vivid blogger. Just as my blog suggests its better late than never. Hope to keep blogging more often. See ya all and enjoy every moment of life.

Question the orthodox said sir CV Raman. How many times we hear everyone question the orthodox? Plenty! However do we question to really know the reason behind it? I still question, i never stop. So, here is a small area i am sharing on the food related habits followed down traditions. With some convincing views on why it was followed. Let me split food as follows - Cooked food short life - which will start perishing in few hours. Cooked food longer life - shelf life of foods which range between months to years Raw food short life & raw food long life Raw food long life Grains such as rice, wheat or pulses, coconut, oils are a few examples of foods whos shelf life is longer than months. Yet these are not cooked food. Pickles are not cooked but marinated. They taste best when marinated like wine. Raw food short life Vegetables and fruits ( i am a vegan and hence examples shared on those lines) are good raw foods whos shelf life is less than a week. Cooked food long...

Every book for the mom to be, or every website that i have browsed have loads of information about pregnancy and about 6 weeks post delivery. What happens after that, there are loads of books and information on parenting. What now, where can new moms get the energy they loose? I have questioned a lot of traditional methods to find answers, and still questioning. When i get more convincing answers i will add on here. But for now certain basic info which i would like to share is here. Mother should have calm mind and lots of help to recover. The raw truth is, babies are parasites till they start eating on their own. So moms health is very important. 1. Calcium Pls include calcium in your intake. Olden method is sunambu (something like lime stone) in beetle leaf. The sunnambu has calcium in it. If not available ask you doctor to give u supplements. 2.   Digestion Anything a mom eats has to be digested well, this is to avoid curdling burps by the baby. Beetle leaf is...